The 36 Questions That Lead to Love
Do the famous Aron-study experiment together — guided, free, with the 4-minute stare timer
If you could invite anyone in the world to dinner, who would it be?
Do the famous 36 questions that lead to love together — revealed one at a time in three sets of rising intimacy, then capped with the canonical 4-minute eye-contact timer. No scoring, no signup, no PDF wall.
When you finish, keep a free shareable 'We Did the 36 Questions' card, and make the moment official with a completion certificate for the two of you.
How the 36 questions work (the Aron study, in 3 sets)
Psychologist Arthur Aron's 1997 study paired strangers and had them ask each other 36 increasingly personal questions in three sets, building closeness through escalating self-disclosure. Our guided flow reveals them one by one so you and your partner stay present together.
The full list of 36 questions
Read all 36 right here, grouped into the original three sets — no download required. Each is shown on its own so you answer, listen, then move to the next at your own pace.
The 4-minute eye-contact timer
The study famously ends with four minutes of uninterrupted eye contact. Our built-in timer runs the stare for you, so you can close the experience exactly the way the experiment intended.
Get your free "We Did the 36 Questions" card
Finish the experience and we generate a free, shareable 'We Did the 36 Questions' card with your names and the date — a branded keepsake you can post or send in seconds.
Try more couple experiences
Want to keep going? Try the how-well-do-you-know-me quiz, the compatibility test or the love language quiz next — same guided, shareable, just-for-fun format.
Frequently asked questions
- Do the 36 questions actually work?
- They're designed to build closeness through gradual self-disclosure, and many couples find them a meaningful way to connect — but treat it as a fun, bonding experience, not a guaranteed formula for falling in love.
- How do the 36 questions work?
- You and a partner take turns answering 36 questions that grow more personal across three sets, then hold four minutes of eye contact. The structured openness is what creates the sense of closeness.
- What happens at the end of the 36 questions?
- The experiment closes with four minutes of silent, uninterrupted eye contact. Our built-in timer runs it for you, and afterward you can keep a shareable 'We Did the 36 Questions' card.